The TRUTH should set you free!
Tell the truth and shame the devil. The bible says in Proverbs 12:17 those who tell the truth demonstrate righteousness, but a false witness cannot be trusted. There is a big difference between being secretive and being private. Privacy is a conscious decision and secrecy is not. Secrecy is the practice of hiding information from certain individuals or groups who do not have the "need to know", perhaps while sharing it with other individuals. That which is kept hidden is known as the secret. Privacy is the ability of an individual or group to seclude themselves or information about themselves, and thereby express themselves selectively. The domain of privacy partially overlaps with security, which can include the concepts of appropriate use and protection of information.
I remember a time there was this guy I met on social media. We will call him ‘Midwest”. We started talking and learning about one another. He seemed like a nice guy, and we got along well. One day he informed me that he still lives with his child’s mother. If I remember correctly his child was a 10 year old. He assured me that there wasn’t anything going on with him and “Maria” and the reason they lived together was he wanted to make sure he was there for his daughter. For some reason, my gut was telling me he wasn’t being honest. But I gave him the benefit of the doubt. As we started to have more conversations and there was talk about flying out to meet up, I noticed that he would only call at certain times of the day, or when he was at the gym getting ready to play a game of basketball. If he was around his child, he would hide that he was talking to me. When I called him out on his behavior, he told me I was making more of it than what it was. I asked him if “Maria” knew we were getting acquainted. He quickly changed the subject. I then flat out asked him if he ever told Maria that they were not a couple anymore, that they were just friends and he told me that she already knew. But did she really know?
Now this of course was a red flag in my book. Because as a woman myself who has also been through some faulty relationships in the past with my kids’ father, I would need to hear those words from his mouth otherwise I would assume we are good. Especially if we are living together and doing things together like a family. It’s safe to say, “Midwest” and I no longer communicate because in my heart of hearts I knew he wasn’t being honest, with me or Maria. Had he been upfront and told me she didn’t know; I would respect him for being honest, but I would no longer communicate with him in that fashion. All he needed to do was tell the truth.
Too many times we try to hide things, and, in the end, they always will come to the light. This is a small world especially with social media and so many things will be found out if the person knows where to look. Just know that the truth will eventually be known. Secrets of people’s lives that are hidden now, will one day be disclosed.
The truth can be uncomfortable at times but it is the best way to go. With the truth you don't have to rehearse your story because it should always be the same. As you remain truthful in all things, it opens up doors for growth, maturity and we learn from our mistakes. Truth matters to me and I hope it matters to you too!
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"