Why is it that some of us feel the need to correct people when they do something wrong as if we have been hired to be the moral police. Who hired us as security to monitor people stealing from a store we are shopping at? No one, we are just being nosey and not minding our business.
I remember a time I was going to the gas station to get gas. This particular gas station you enter in one way and exit the opposite way. As I was driving to my desired pump entering according to the signs, I noticed a car entering in from the exit direction and I immediately became agitated. I said to myself, “why can’t they follow directions?” I decided to post about my frustration on my Instagram story and about 5 minutes later I get a message from a friend asking me if I was the moral police. He asked, “who gave me the job to direct traffic there at the gas station?” Was I the hired security? This gave me something to think about.
Another time I was shopping at the store and noticed a customer walk right out of the store with a Christmas tree on the bottom of their cart. And I decided to post about it again on my Instagram story and again I was checked by another friend. They asked me, what did that person stealing have to do with me? Absolutely nothing. It wasn’t hurting me at all if that customer didn’t pay, so why am I trying to do the job of a loss prevention specialist at the store. I could hear my dad in my head say, “baby that is some white people stuff.” All of those "Karen" and "Kens" out there! It was at that moment I said to myself to mind my own business. The bible tells us in James 4:11-12, brothers, and sisters, don’t speak evil of one another. If you do, you’re taking the place of God and enforcing the law instead of obeying it. There is only one lawgiver and judge who has a right enforce the law. He rewards those who keep it and punishes those who violate it. So, who are we to criticize others?
A lot of times some of us get frustrated at what other people are doing instead of doing a self-check on ourselves. Why did it matter to me if that person wasn’t following directions? It had no bearing on whether I was able to get gas in that moment. I just wanted to be mad at something, and I picked that situation to be frustrated about.
At the end of the day the only person I should be worried about in this aspect is me if I am so concerned about people following the rules. If I am training up children, I can worry about them too. But as far as others, its none of my concern and I need to mind the business that pays me and not theirs. As I continue to check myself and when I follow the rules and do things the right way, those who watch and learn from me will follow suit as well.
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
Cassie K.
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"