Clarity Matters

I remember a conversation I was having a few months back. A coworker was telling me about a guy she’s been talking to for about six months. She really really likes this guy—the kind of like where you start thinking, hmm… potential boo thang.

So naturally, I asked, “Okay, but does he actually like you?”

She said, “I think so. We talk all the time, and he likes my posts on social media.”

And I had to stop her right there. I had to remind her that talking consistently and liking her pictures does not automatically equal romantic interest. Why is it that we as ladies, sometimes build entire narratives off of attention without ever getting actual clarity? And I say ladies because I am a woman and I can only speak from a woman's perspective. But let's be honest, this isn't exclusive to only us.

So I asked her, “Has he clearly told you he likes you in that way? Has he expressed genuine romantic interest?” And she just looked at me, like a deer in headlights, with a blank stare of confusion. I had to giggle a little on the inside because I too have been exactly where she is at in the past. I connected dots that were never meant to form a picture. Talk about lost in the sauce.

Because one thing I’ve learned over time is this: not every interaction with the opposite sex is romantic and not everyone who gives you attention is pursuing you.

Sometimes we confuse access, convenience, and casual consistency with intentionality, but its the clarity that matters the most.

We have to stop assuming and start asking questions. We protect our time, our emotions, and our expectations by making sure both of us are actually on the same page.

Before you get emotionally invested, ask yourself: Do I actually know where I stand, or am I filling in the blanks? Because if you are guessing, it might be time to stop observing and asking those hard questions.

Just know that clarity might feel uncomfortable in the moment, but confusion will cost you way more in the long run.

Sending you love, light and positive vibes,

Cassie K.

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