I’m speaking as someone who was raised up in church my whole life until I left ministry in 2021. We are taught to love, but that love comes with conditions. We are told it’s unconditional but, in our subconscious, if the persons actions don’t line up with the Bible and all that it has to say, we start to judge immediately. As if our boo-boo doesn’t stink too. The bible tells us in Matthew 7:3-5 says, why do you keep pointing to the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye when you don’t pay attention to the log in your own eye. Why are you so eager to take the speck out of his eye when you still have a piece of wood in yours? You hypocrite! First, take a look at your own faults and correct them, then you’ll be better able to see how you can help others! Too many times we don’t examine ourselves before passing judgement.
I remember when my oldest son was in the 8th grade, and he invited this girl to church. He wanted me to meet her because he liked her. She came dressed in clothes that I didn’t think were fit for her to leave the house in and she looked poor in taste. Instead of me giving her a warm welcome, I immediately said something about what she was wearing. I judged her outside before ever getting to know the girl on the inside (judged a book by its cover). I messed it up for my son and myself and I made her feel unwelcomed.
Often times when we meet someone or are introduced to someone, we immediately start to judge what we see. We don’t stick around long enough to get to know the person well enough to even form an opinion. We might come in contact with someone while they were having a challenging day and instead of giving them grace, we immediately go into defense mode. According to a Google search, you can’t really know a person or get a good idea of their personality and characteristics until you’ve been dealing with them for at least 6 months. Think about how many times you may have judged too soon and possibly missed out on a good relationship.
We have to do a better job of getting to know people and stop passing judgement. You never truly know a person’s story. If you listen long enough, you will be able to find out everything you need to know and then you can make an informed decision on whether or not you want to continue forward in the relationship of any kind.
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
Cassie K.
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"