Should LOVE hurt?
Love is supposed to help not hurt you. Why is it that some of us believe that when we are disrespected it means that we are loved? We are so used to dysfunction that we can’t see that we are slowly dying. I used to be that type of person. I would allow myself to be used and abused to have a partner. It took a while for me to snap out of it, but when I did life was calmer. Tina Turner was one of the greatest to ever do it! She too had a love that hurt her. One of Tina Turner’s greatest hits is titled: What’s Love Got to Do with it? The chorus of that song says,
Oh-oh-oh, what's love got to do, got to do with it? What's love, but a second-hand emotion? What's love got to do, got to do with it? Who needs a heart when a heart can be broken?
So, I ask this question, what does LOVE have to do with anything? It has a lot to do with things when its pure and unconditional. Love is defined as an intense feeling of deep affection. Love can also be a great interest or pleasure in something.
The bible tells us in 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 that love is patient and kind. It doesn’t envy or boast, nor is it puffed up with its own importance. Love is never rude, nor does it behave disorderly. It is not interested in itself, does not become angry or keep a record of wrongs. Love doesn’t enjoy evil but is always happy with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes for all things, and endures all things.
If I love you, I will do my best not to hurt you. Not to say that you won’t get hurt at times, but I am not intentionally causing you harm. With love comes trust, honesty, loyalty, communication, vulnerability, and respect. How can I say I love you when I don’t respect you? Respect comes in all forms, but most importantly listening to one another and trying to understand what each other are saying.
I say all that to say this. Love should never hurt you. Especially in a relationship. If you are constantly being hurt verbally, mentally, emotionally, and physically maybe it’s time for you to re-evaluate that partnership or friendship. And if you can’t come to a place where you are listening and respecting one another on all levels, then its time for you to part ways.
It’s better to have peace and be by yourself, than to have a piece of someone and live in chaos and confusion. Make sure you are loving yourself first before you try and give that love to someone else. You will only be treated as good as you treat yourself.
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"