Stop asking people the question “are you okay” when you really don’t want to know. It’s really frustrating for those of us on the side giving you the answer. At the time of me writing this blog post (March 8th), it has been 10 days since my fur baby Gina took her last breath and no, I am not okay. She was my little spirit animal. She would follow me around when I was home, and she’d be sad when I was out of town. I would always call my son and check up on her. FaceTime with him to see her temperament. And make sure she heard my voice.
I really miss her, and it’s been a struggle to smile. Just when I thought I was okay, something else happened that would trigger my emotions and I immediately start crying.
So many times we will ask someone how they are doing, and we really don’t care. We are just trying to be nice or pass the time. Or possibly fill up the air with sound because it’s too quiet. It’s not fair to the person with whom you are communicating with. They get ready to offload and find out your really not that interested. Depending on the person and where they are at emotionally, this could set them back a bit. We have to get in the habit of being present with each other or finding a way to inquire without activation. Maybe we aren’t ready to be there for you the way you need us to in that moment. And that’s okay. We are all human and dealing with life in our own ways.
What I’m trying to say is to be sincere when you reach out or speak to someone. Don’t feel obligated to inquire because you know someone, if you really could care less. The people on the receiving end of that insincere gesture can feel your energy and it doesn’t go unnoticed. Romans 12:9-11 (CEV) says, be sincere in your love for others. Hate everything that is evil and hold tight to everything that is good. Love each other as brothers and sisters and honor others more than you do yourself. Never give up.
When you really care, act like it and when you don’t, DON’T!
Just stop faking it, please!
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally?"