STOP, expecting YOU from others.
Updated: Feb 25
When you put your expectations on others you will be disappointed every time. When the reality doesn’t match up to what you hoped for you will always be let down.
No matter what type of relationship it is, business, personal, professional, or temporary I always give 100 percent. I do my best every time to dot all my “I’s” and cross all of my “T’s”. If we are in a personal relationship whether friends or close family, there is never a question of whether I care for you or not. You will know because I tell you and I show you with my actions. You may receive a card from me in the mail or a text letting you know I’m thinking of you. We set dates to hang out and enjoy each other’s company. If I’m helping you with an event and you tell me you need me there at 6 pm, I’ll show up at 5 pm just to make sure I’m there before time. I’ll add the event to the calendar in my kitchen, in my room and on my phone just to make sure I don’t miss it. If you have a business, wrote a book or are trying to start a talk show on social media, I’ll support you, I’ll buy your product, not only for myself but to bless others. I’ll share your flyers and posts on social media to help spread the word and even tap into the LIVE discussion when I am available and contribute to the comments or come up on the camera.
When the pandemic hit in 2020, I contacted a friend (unique_teez206 on Instagram) who owns a small apparel business and had personalized masks created to their liking for all the people I love. I was supporting his business and made sure my special people knew I cared about them. Check him out, he sells T-shirts and hoodies too. On a personal level, you'll see a more intentional side of me.
For years I would get disappointed when a family member or friend didn’t reciprocate the way I thought they should. When having a discussion with my daughter I would vent and complain about how I perceived my treatment. Over and over again, year after year I would feel this way. That is until this year when I decided that enough was enough. Hahahah, yes, I said this year. The new year has only just begun, but change must begin somewhere! I have to meet people where they are at. And sometimes those people never leave that spot. They will always be who they are, especially if they have been the same for 10, 20 even 30 years. I may evolve and grow each year, but they haven’t, and I have to be okay with that. Some of those relationships I’m choosing to love from a distance and others I will take what they give me. There are a few relationships where I won’t hear from them unless I initiate the contact, or they need something. And that would bother me so much. But now I remind myself it is who they are and don’t take it personally. It’s not me, it’s them. It’s how they are programmed and hardwired. Even after I’ve expressed my feelings, they remain the same.
So, with all of that said I want to remind you to keep being the best version of yourself. Keep nurturing your relationships the best way you know how. Take self out of it when comes with the way those relationships are reciprocated. Some folks just don’t have the capacity to love you the way you feel they should. If and when you feel it’s not enough and may never be enough it’s okay to let the relationship go. Never feel bad about choosing you!
Self-preservation is one of the highest forms of self-care!
Sending love, light and positive vibes,
**Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, LAUGH at everything and LOVE unconditionally**