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Stop Forcing it!

Have you ever been in a place where you have to force yourself to spend time with someone? You’ve outgrown them, but you can’t come to terms with that thought so you keep holding on for dear life.  It never fails that every time you spend with these certain people, you leave drained mentally, emotionally, and physically.  You used to get excited about spending time with them, but now you don’t, and it takes a toll on you mentally.  So, when do you know it's time to cut the cord? I think you know; you just don't want it to come to terms with it.  


Some people come into our lives for a season and some for a lifetime.  Often, we try to hold on to those who were only supposed to be there to teach us a lesson and keep it moving. Maybe there are some relationships in your life that have run their course. At least for this season of your life. God is trying to do a new thing, but you keep holding on to that old thing causing you to miss out on the next thing. Ecclesiastes 3:1 says for everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven..., what season are you in? 


It can be very difficult to let go of someone who has been a staple in your life, but it is necessary. Just because you have to let that person or persons go doesn’t mean you all are no longer friends or family.  They are still a piece of your puzzle; they just aren’t the important piece anymore. It's possible that they are now one of the edge pieces and they stay on the outside.  You need the main pieces that will help you stick to the course in front of you. Why is it that you don't want to be around these friends or these family members?  Oftentimes these relationships are based on the past and most of the time you are not that person anymore.  Then there are times when people only contact you when they need something and not to check in on you to see how your day has been going. This can get really annoying at times and eventually you just stop answering the calls and text all together. Maybe your interests and hobbies have changed, and you no longer have anything in common with said people. 


Let's look at some relationships I used to have in my life. I believe what held some of those relationships together was our love for God and the fact that we served alongside each other in ministry. Once I left the ministry, we no longer had that same interest.  It's not that I don't love God, because I do, but that season of my life has come to an end and now God is using me in other ways. Sharing my life and what God is doing in my life has been a beautiful way to heal from some of the church trauma I suffered.  Some of those relationships are not the same anymore.  Some of my friends I haven't seen in over a year or more.  A few of them we still keep in contact via text, checking up on each other and sending love to one another, but we haven't made time to link and actually be in each other's presence.  Are there any hard feelings? Of course not. Are we still friends? Absolutely. But that season of ministry in my life is over and therefore it's time to move on.  The bible says in Isaiah 43:18-19 forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland. God is doing His part; you just have to do yours. 


As you continue to grow, sometimes the people in your life won't grow with you in the same way and that is just fine.  Celebrate the experiences you had with them and get in position to create new ones with other people who God is bringing into your life.  I will never forget any of the beautiful people God has brought into my life.  Some have made long lasting impacts that continue to push me to my next destination.  And maybe one day when our schedules align, we make time to hang out and break bread but until then you have to keep living.

Sending you love, light and positive vibes,

Cassie K.

"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"

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Feb 18

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