Whodini has a song called “Friends” The chorus says, friends, how many of us have them? Friends, ones we can depend on. Friends, how many of us have them? Before we go any further, let’s be friends.
Friendship defined by Webster Dictionary is the emotions or conduct of friends; the state of being friends. Friendship according to the urban dictionary is when you love someone with every ounce of your being and genuinely want them to be happy even if it means sacrificing something yourself to make them happy. A true friend is someone you can talk to about your feelings, someone you can tell things to that you could never tell your family or your partner. The bible says in Proverbs 18:24, Jesus is a friend who sticks closer than a brother. Do you have friend(s) like that? I would hope for at least one.
Sometimes I feel that we throw that word friend around to loosely. Just because I met you online or at an event and we were friendly, doesn’t make us friends. It makes us associates who happen to know each other. Too many times we expect people we just met to show up for us like a friend should and it’s not in their capacity.
I asked this question on my Instagram story a few weeks back; what is friendship to you?
And these were some of the responses:
It means everything, like a sister.
It means understanding.
It means a lot if the right friend is sincere and true.
It means love.
It means having someone that will be there for you no matter what, a true ride or die.
If we are really friends, I believe we will communicate consistently. Does that mean I will talk to you every day. Absolutely not. But we will stay in communication. I have a couple friends who we talk almost every other day. Then there are a couple of friends, who we might talk once every few months, and we text at least once a week. It’s the consistency for me. But how can you say we are friends and then disappear for months on end. Especially in today’s times when we have cell phones and can send text messages and voice notes. Life is happening for everyone, but we make time for what’s important to us. Even if all you can do is text me to say you will be unavailable for a month or two, then I know where I stand and won’t bother you. But if I am constantly checking up on you and making sure I communicate, I would expect the same. I am making the choice to show up for my friends because I value and appreciate them.
Just as the theme song from golden girls says, I say too, thank you for being a friend! We’ve traveled down the roads and back again. Your heart is true, you’re a pal and a confidant. I thank God for those friends who truly value the word friendship and honor our relationships accordingly.
Sending you love, light and positive vibes,
"Always remember to LIVE life to the fullest, to LAUGH at everything and to LOVE unconditionally!"